As college students, there’s still a lot about ourselves that we need to figure out. We’re at a point in our lives where we’re trying to develop our unique personalities while juggling the stress of school, friendships, and relationships. And while our looks seem to be everything right now – especially considering that you can achieve fame and fortune with a few viral tweets – it’s extremely important to remember to nourish the inner you. It’s the spiritual side of you that maybe not everyone will see, but it is the version that will matter most in the long run.
Some people may know who they are already, and they’re set on not changing for the rest of their lives. For others, though, there are so many parts of ourselves we have yet to unlock. That’s why spirituality is so important; to unlock your full potential, you need to understand yourself and your limitations or shortcomings. But I understand that spirituality isn’t the same for everyone and everyone has their own ways of expressing themselves, so the tips I am about to give on how to practice developing your spirituality may not be for everyone.
- Practice patience with yourself
This is the thing I have struggled with the most, so it’s at the top of my list. You may not be where you want to be right now, but that’s okay. Life isn’t a race, it’s a process. Everyone is experiencing things at their own pace, and you shouldn’t let that discourage you from your path or allow it to deter you from your own goals. Recognizing this is the first step to becoming more spiritual because you can acknowledge things aren’t going to go your way all the time, and you may fail sometimes, but if you continue to do what you need to do you will get there eventually.
2. Recognize your own negative qualities and unlearn them
A lot of us forget that we can be toxic, too. It’s important to be kind to yourself and have patience with yourself, but don’t ignore the ways you may be negatively affecting others. Over sympathizing with yourself is possible!
3. Find something you are really passionate about
In finding something I could truly devote my time to studying and growing through, I have felt myself grow immensely. This could truly be anything as long as it is positively affecting your lifestyle and aiding in your growth rather than taking away from it.
4. Do something new – but make sure you’re comfortable
Yes, getting out of your comfort zone is important, but what is also important is that you’re safe. Entering your spiritual development take a certain level of vulnerability with yourself and the world, and while I support the idea of adding something new to your life, I also suggest that you do this in a way where you aren’t putting your health – whether physical or mental – in jeopardy.
5. Create both short and long term goals for yourself
Unpopular opinion: short-term goals are just as important as long-term goals. Short-term goals can help you propel yourself forward because they should be realistic and achievable in a shorter time frame. This doesn’t mean long-term goals aren’t essential though, because they are. I suggest writing down what you want to accomplish, or creating a vision board.
6. Cut the bad things out of your life
This doesn’t just mean people (but definitely cut out toxic people too). Yes, I know I said your physical appearance isn’t everything, but make sure you’re taking care of your physical health too. I definitely still struggle with making time for this, but know your limitations. This doesn’t mean to hit the gym every day or go carb-free, because it could mean the exact opposite. Your body is your temple, so figure out what it needs. Find a balance that helps you feel energized and happy.
7. Be kind
Do something nice for a stranger! Apologize to someone you may have hurt! Forgive yourself! There are tons of ways you can be kind not only to yourself, but to others. Just don’t overextend yourself – know when you need to make time for you and only you. Give yourself space and room to grow. But I want to point out that you don’t have to be kind to or give your energy to people who have hurt you! You are under no obligation to these people – even if they are your family.
8. Practice emotional intelligence and restraint
It’s easy to get swept up by your emotions, but make sure what you are going to say or do to someone isn’t unjustified. This is why I make sure to say intelligence and restraint. It’s important that you can empathize with someone while valuing your own emotions in the process. Just don’t let your own emotions run wild, you might do things you regret, and karma is very real.
9. Call someone you love
It’s easy to neglect those we love when we know they are going to be there for us – but please, don’t. Cherish the time you have with those you care about most, and check up on them, too. Even if they may not always see what you’re trying to do and show their gratitude for it, you should feel satisfied knowing you did what you can to be a decent person in their lives.
10. Worry about you first
That being said, don’t let people walk all over you! Use your voice, you have one for a reason. Some people may take advantage of your kindness, but respect yourself enough to know where to draw a boundary. Always put your needs first when you know it’s the right thing to do. Don’t let friendships or relationships stop you from taking care of these needs because if they do, they probably aren’t worth it. And don’t worry about comparing your actions to others’ – they aren’t you.
There’s a lot of ways you can start practicing your spiritual development, and these are only a few. Positive growth is the ultimate goal, so take whatever steps you may need to achieve it. Learn yourself, work with yourself, and see the results in your changing perspectives on life and yourself.
